Trixie Lamonte
Trixie is a professional sex educator, relationship coach, creator of Poly Excellent curriculum and classes, inclusivity and diversity expert, performance artist, workshop facilitator, public speaker, priestess extraordinaire, liberation advocate, writer, and consultant. Trixie is the founder and CEO of Shine, the founder and Director of Gender Illumination, the founder of Gender Blender, and a board member of Mission Control. They are proud to be kinky, queer, and gender-blended.
Coaching
I offer relationship, sex, confidence, and life coaching. I create unique experiences based on each individuals needs. My ethos is nonjudgemental unconditional support. I am here to help you shine, grow, and become more of the person you want to be. I coach on owning your desire, self-esteem building, learning how to say yes and no, and building strong relationships. I center your narrative and work with you to create achievable goals.
I work with individuals, multiple partners, and groups. I support you in your own personal process and interpersonal process with your partner(s), lover(s) and other people you relate with. I am here to listen to you, offer guidance, and help you understand what you want. Coaching is a space of unconditional care in which you can truly be yourself.
I love to work with people over time. Poly Excellence doesn’t happen overnight! While I do offer one-time coaching sessions, I primarily work with people on an on-going basis. I work with people of all sexual orientations, genders, and backgrounds. I welcome queer, straight, bi, pan, asexual, trans, nonbinary, cis - literally if you exist which you do I am honored to work with you. AND while this coaching practice centers poly people - monogamous folks are welcome too.
In addition to coaching, I facilitate rituals and ceremonies for major life cycle events.
Work with me
Sessions are available in-person, phone, and video. Sessions are 1 hour, 90 minutes, or 2 hours.
Rates are dependent on number of sessions, time, and also operate on a sliding scale based on income and with deep consideration for those who carry a resilient identity. Inquire within.
Playshops
I offer fun, interactive, educational, and engaging playshops (workshops) on many topics. Playshops can include live demos, depending on the space. Playshops can also be held online.
Topics
Sexual liberation
Role play
Confidence at a play party (how to feel comfortable and confident in the space)
Consent - owning our yes and no
Fisting
The art of dirty talk
Bringing playfulness into sex
Overcoming shame
Embodied sexual healing
Overcoming sexual trauma
How to flirt like a pro
Sexellence
How to be a great lover to a non-binary or trans person
Best techniques for strap-on blow jobs
Best techniques for strap-on sex
How to pleasure non-binary and trans front holes
How to give a blow job to trans cock
How to go down on non-binary pussycock
Sex and drugs
Pleasuring the pussy
Dicks for days
The art of teasing
The art of seduction
Tips and tricks for safer Sex and making that hot
How to host your own play party
Gender, race, class and kink
Tools for creative scenes, and more!
Play Parties
You can hire me to produce small or large scale consent-based safer sex play parties. All of my parties are curated so that participants feel welcome, included, comfortable, and safe. I love to create themed parties and to cater to communities who are often marginalized. I work with all people from all backgrounds.
I offer an opening circle, hosting, vibe checkers, and safer sex supplies. Additional services include: event promotion, ice breakers, fun games, playshops, and performances.
I can provide a location or come to your space. I am based in the San Francisco Bay Area, and I am available to travel.
Performances
I perform regularly at parties and events. I am based in the San Francisco Bay Area, and I am available to travel nationally and internationally. I also offer coaching/directing for performance artists. Contact me for more details.
Book me to perform
Drag and gender blending
Political theater
Ritual theater
Group pieces
Improv
Spoken word
Stand up comedy
Original plays
Burlesque
Go-Go dancing
Rebel In Your Holiness
MC events, talent shows, drag performances, and more
Upcoming Events
Highlighted Past Events
Contact
To book coaching, playshops, play parties or performing, please fill out this form!